14 Ways On How To Handle A Cheating Girlfriend – Sa Fred

14 Ways On How To Handle A Cheating Girlfriend – Sa Fred

14 Ways On How To Handle A Cheating Girlfriend – Sa Fred: Cheating in a relationship is a sign of self-regulation failure. When it happens once, it is a mistake. When it happens twice, it is unfortunate. But when it happens thrice or more, it is a pattern indicating primitive, uncivilized inhuman behavior

Below are 14 Ways on How To Handle a Cheating Girlfriend, according to the best tips of Sa Fred, a relationship specialist.

1. Ask yourself certain questions.

After you’ve been cheated on, the first step is evaluating the relationship and determining whether or not it’s worth it to you to stay. You need to ask yourself certain questions to make this decision. Be as honest as possible with yourself.

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2. Has your girlfriend cheated in the past?

For some, cheating is a compulsive behavior that happens again and again. If the problem is less rooted in this specific relationship and more grounded in a problem your girlfriend has with a fidelity that is not personal, the cheating may be easier to accept and get past.

3. Why did your girlfriend cheat?

While some might say cheating is cheating, end of the story, the fact is the reasons behind infidelity mean a lot. A one-night, purely physical slip-up may be far easier to forgive than a long-term affair in which your girlfriend became emotionally attached to someone else. Try to put yourself in your girlfriend’s shoes and question how you would have felt in her position.

4. What was the state of your relationship when the cheating occurred?

If the relationship was in a rough patch, and you knew your girlfriend was unhappy, cheating may be easier to understand. Were you two taking each other for granted? Did she need emotional needs filled outside the relationship? If so, can these problems be fixed, or should you both sever ties and move on?

5. Compulsive sexual behavior is a term applied to a wide variety of sexual activity that falls outside societal norms including some forms of infidelity. Infidelity is usually only considered a compulsive sexual behavior if it is a pattern of behavior that a person engaged in without thought and at great personal risk.

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6. If your girlfriend has cheated on partners in the past, she may be doing so compulsively. Once you’ve had time to calm down, ask your girlfriend whether she feels she has any control over her sexual impulses and if she gets any pleasure out of her sexual experiences. If the answer is no, she may have a disorder that requires psychiatric treatment.

7. Remember, not all cheating is compulsive.

It’s important not to automatically define infidelity as a disorder. If your girlfriend cheated because of an issue in your relationship, or if she is polyamorous and is not interested in a monogamous relationship, accusing her of having a disorder can come off as insensitive. She might feel like you’re being judgmental and ignoring other, more relevant issues that caused her to cheat.

8. Reaching out to others.

It can be difficult to sort through the emotional impact of cheating on your own. Reach out to friends and family members to help talk through and better understand your feelings.

Talk to friends and family members you trust, who you know will refrain from judgment. Tell them about what occurred and ask for emotional support. People may offer advice, but politely tell them you’re merely trying to figure out your own feelings and do not need instructions on how to proceed.

9. Do not be vindictive.

It’s okay to reach out to others, but do not tell your girlfriend’s mother, best friend, or co-worker about your relationship issues. Pick people you had an existing relationship with before you got together with your girlfriend.

10. Consider an open relationship.

Some people are polyamorous. This means they struggle to stay with a single partner and may want someone open to seeking sex and romance outside a single relationship. If your girlfriend falls into this category, consider whether or not you could handle an open relationship.

11. Confirm Your Suspicions

You don’t need to be totally sure to break up. In fact, a lot of times cheaters will play on that small part of you that wants to believe them and ignore all the red flags in your relationship. What you need to look for is what’s called in law “beyond a shadow of a reasonable doubt.” If you have reasonable doubts that’s one thing. However, burying your head in the sand and looking for a reason to believe her isn’t the same thing. This is really a gut-check moment. You need to ask yourself if you believe your intuition. And, when all else fails, don’t be afraid to confront her with some hard questions.

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12. Be Decisive About Your Breakup

If she’s been cheating on you, you need to end it. And to that end, you need to be decisive about the fact that you’ve decided to end it. Keep distance between the two of you. You’re never going to move on if you keep letting her back in. What’s more, taking her back would be a bad move on your part. So allow yourself to create distance between the two of you — as much as possible.

You might have to move out. There might be reasons for communicating that are logistical. That’s not necessarily a red flag in terms of creating the type of space that you’re looking to create right now. However, anything beyond that isn’t good. This is for your own mental health.

13. Get Tested

This is probably the least pleasant advice you’re going to get from me, ever: get tested. Even if the two of you were using protection, condoms don’t protect against all sexually transmitted infections. So it’s important that you make sure that you’re healthy. Even if you’re not experiencing any symptoms, head down to the local clinic. It only takes a short amount of time and you can’t put a price tag on the type of peace of mind you’re going to have when it’s all said and done.

14. Realize That It’s Her Problem Not Yours

A lot of guys feel like when their girlfriends cheat on them that it’s somehow their fault. It’s not. No matter what you think you did, unless it was cheating on her in the first place, you didn’t make her cheat on you. In fact, no one can really “make” anyone do anything. Realizing this is crucial to growing, healing, and trusting people again, not seeing red flags everywhere where there aren’t any. And you’re just not going to be able to have another healthy relationship until you fully accept this part of it.
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Good luck guys.

Courtesy: Sa Fred.

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